Desiderata by Max Ehrmann is a 1927 prose poem. "Desiderata" (Latin: "desired things")
11. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.
Love is perennial as the grass. Perhaps Max Ehrmann was referring to his observation of the Ryegrass that grows in Indiana where he lived. It's a cool-seasoned grass that germinates faster than any other common lawn grass. it peaks in growth during cool seasons, from fall through spring. It's considered tough and traffic tolerant. It establishes a permanent lawn that comes back every year.
Our primitive experience with love is Storge which refers to natural or instinctual affection, such as the love of a parent towards their child and vice-versa. Our next experience with love is Phila or affectionate love from friendship. Our third experience with love is Eros or passionate, romantic love. Agape is the highest form of love which is the love of God for man and woman and of man and woman for God. We're born into this love. God is love.
The instruction is don't believe that only selfishness motivates human actions. A milder way of putting it is don't underestimate the power and resiliency of love. It can thrive in arid conditions. It can thrive in cool conditions. It is all around us even when we're feeling deserted and alone.
Even when we look for its power, but we don't see it. Even when we look for its beauty, but we can't find it. Even when we look for its joy, but instead we find heartache. Love is not tough enough. It can't withstand the constant, inconsiderate traffic.
If I choose to walk in love, I'm acknowledging that love is all around me. If I choose to walk in love, I'm choosing to try to be loving to others. I will lose my way at times - trip and fall, but, hopefully it will be on Ryegrass.
As individuals, I think we become cynical about love because we want unconditional love in return for our conditional love. We also think of love as finite, instead of infinite and boundless. We think of it as restrictive or controlling, instead of letting go.
We absolutely refuse to love our enemies because they don't deserve our precious gift. Moreover, loving our enemies deprives us of the love we need to give those we really care about. Additionally, why love someone who doesn't love us, or who may even hate us?
I know that I am not always lovable or loving, but I'm still loved. So I keep working on learning how to love unconditionally, how to love my enemies. if I can love my enemies, everyone I come into contact with will have a loved experience. it's worth the pilgrimage.
If you're still with me, I hope you've found some value in taking this journey with me; and, It's been quite a journey. At this juncture, I would like for you to know that our Desiderata journey is halfway to its end.
Thank you for reading. What are your thoughts?
Dedicated to my sons Jibri and Chris, my privilege and blessing. EcwmB